[ROCm] update hip library name (#41813)
Summary:
With transition to hipclang, the HIP runtime library name was changed. A symlink was added to ease the transition, but is going to be removed. Conditionally set library name based on HIP compiler used. Patch gloo submodule as part of build_amd.py script until its associated fix is available.
CC ezyang xw285cornell sunway513
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/41813
Reviewed By: zhangguanheng66
Differential Revision: D22660077
Pulled By: xw285cornell
fbshipit-source-id: c538129268d9947535b34523201f655b13c9e0a3
