call contiguous on BMM inputs for NT on CUDA (#88108)
Fixes #87713
BMM for cpu supports non-contiguous nested tensor inputs, while BMM for Cuda does not support currently non-contiguous inputs.
The derivative for BMM:
```
- name: bmm(Tensor self, Tensor mat2) -> Tensor
self: grad.bmm(mat2.transpose(1, 2).conj())
mat2: self.transpose(1, 2).conj().bmm(grad)
result: self_t.bmm(mat2_p) + self_p.bmm(mat2_t)
```
When calling backward it was impossible for this function to succeed since the inputs were always discontiguous, regardless of the user input. This adds contiguous calls to BMM_cuda implementation for nested tensors.
This was not caught by tests because grad_check is currently only done on CPU in test_nestedtensors. This PR updates the autograd test to also be run on GPU.
As a result I found one more issue with the backward for to_padded_tensor erroring instead of calling the generic version.
cc @cpuhrsch @jbschlosser @bhosmer @mikaylagawarecki
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/88108
Approved by: https://github.com/cpuhrsch
