[reland] [c10d] switch Store to be managed by intrusive_ptr (#47808)
Summary:
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/47808
reland https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/47074
Test Plan: wait for ci
Reviewed By: gmagogsfm
Differential Revision: D24905246
fbshipit-source-id: edeb7e6e486570ce889f12512e9dc02061d6cc03
