[JIT] Add cond-add-relu matching pattern to cover in-place ops (#55458)
Summary:
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/55458
Previously the cond-add-relu pass blindly turns all in-place add and relu ops into non-mutation version, when those ops are not part of the fusion patten, it can actually hurt the performance as shown in densenet on some platform.
Test Plan: Imported from OSS
Reviewed By: eellison
Differential Revision: D27620415
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