Fix jagged NT softmax semantics (#119459)
Before: `softmax` definition uses `jagged_unary_pointwise()` (wrong)
After: `softmax` impl adjusts the `dim` arg to account for the difference in dimensionality between the outer NT and the NT's `_values`
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/119459
Approved by: https://github.com/soulitzer
