[2/N] [Dispatchable Collectives] Extract ProcessGroup::Work into a separate class and update references (#83680)
### Changes
- Move ProcessGroup::Work into its own class and update all the references to it / header includes.
#### Motivation
In the future PRs we will repurpose ProcessGroup to instead contain a list of Backends (ProcessGroupNCCL/Gloo/UCC) and perform dispatching to them based on tensor type. This change is prevent a circular dependency with ProcessGroup depending on Backend and Backend depending on ProcessGroup::Work.
Differential Revision: [D38839212](https://our.internmc.facebook.com/intern/diff/D38839212)
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/83680
Approved by: https://github.com/kwen2501