Update _store_based_barrier implementation to reduce load on rank 0 (#98000)
Summary:
Update from using add() which makes rank 0 overloaded with requests to a single request every 10 seconds to handle the last joined worker
Added optional logging_interval arg to _store_based_barrier
Test Plan:
```
pytest test/distributed/test_c10d_common.py -vsk test_store_based_barrier
```
Reviewed By: rohan-varma
Differential Revision: D44430531
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/98000
Approved by: https://github.com/kumpera
