[reland3][dynamo] Revert "Revert "[reland][dynamo] use optimizers correctly in benchmar… (#90956)
…king (#87492)" (#90746)"
This reverts commit ff1bbc2773a31ab839438966266ed8ee206cb8c5.
This should be okay to merge now. The flakiness of HF models will be fixed by seeding the rng (https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/90936), and the numeric mismatch was root-caused to three decomps (still investigating why those decomps cause this) see https://github.com/pytorch/torchdynamo/issues/1985 for more detail.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/90956
Approved by: https://github.com/desertfire
