Revert "[c10d] Comment out ddp_hook_with_optimizer_parity tests (#100215)"
This reverts commit ae40a6c7356190ef86b14b10a94a58ca41ca496b.
Reverted https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/100215 on behalf of https://github.com/huydhn due to Sorry for revert your change, but it breaks lint, please run lintrunner -a torch/testing/_internal/distributed/distributed_test.py to fix the issue then reland it
