[JIT] Dont optimize shape peepholes on inline (#36404)
Summary:
With https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/35562, we are running peephole optimization on inlining to reduce the number of nodes that are copied.
The tracer encodes the sizes in the graph like:
```
graph(%0 : Double(7)):
%1 : Function = prim::Constant[name="tensor_size"]()
%2 : Tensor = prim::CallFunction(%1, %0)
return (%2)
```
however people would like to reuse the graph with different shapes so running size invalidations would invalidate that. long term it might be better for the tracer to not include shape information but there are downstream users of that.
Separates out FuseAddMM from peephole so that now there is a single `disable_size_optimizations` parameter, and onnx explicitly invokes fuseaddmm.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/36404
Differential Revision: D20968974
Pulled By: eellison
fbshipit-source-id: 56f8f1699e3b0adeeccdfd5a67bb975fd41a2913
