Make torch.library.define consistent with the new APIs (#111307)
This PR introduces a new overload of torch.library.define. Like
impl_abstract, and our plans for the rest of the torch.library APIs, we
allow it to accept an optional library object to tie the lifetime of the
op definition to.
Test Plan:
- new tests
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/111307
Approved by: https://github.com/soulitzer, https://github.com/ezyang
