[PyTorch][XNNPACK] Update build files for newly added kernels (#95911)
Same thing as D43747173 with some modifications to make sure internal only kernels are disabled in open source.
Differential Revision: [D43747173](https://our.internmc.facebook.com/intern/diff/D43747173/)
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Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/95911
Approved by: https://github.com/digantdesai
