[dtensor] move early return check into redistribute autograd function (#121653)
This PR fixed the bug of redistribute to move early return check into the
redistribute autograd function, so that even though we redistribute the
same placement, the grad_placements from the `to_local` call might be
different, the redistribute backward still need to happen
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/121653
Approved by: https://github.com/awgu
