[c10d] switch ProcessGroupNCCL:Options to be managed by intrusive_ptr (#47075)
Summary: Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/47075
Test Plan: Imported from OSS
Reviewed By: pritamdamania87
Differential Revision: D24667127
Pulled By: wanchaol
fbshipit-source-id: 54986193ba1b22480622a2e9d6d41d9472d201f3
