Revert "match sdpa patterns from HF (#100609)"
This reverts commit c73923473d4ed0ab08143cb8fe3e8c3f86f2cf73.
Reverted https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/100609 on behalf of https://github.com/izaitsevfb due to breaks inductor tests, please see D45973031 ([comment](https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/100609#issuecomment-1553650280))
