Fix random "C1041: cannot open program database" errors when compiling on Windows (#88084)
Adds `/FS` option to `CMAKE_CXX_FLAGS` and `CMAKE_CUDA_FLAGS`.
So far I've encountered this kind of errors:
```
C:\Users\MyUser\AppData\Local\Temp\tmpxft_00004728_00000000-7_cuda.cudafe1.cpp: fatal error C1041: cannot open program database 'C:\Projects\pytorch\build\third_party\gloo\gloo\CMakeFiles\gloo_cuda.dir\vc140.pdb'; if multiple CL.EXE write to the same .PDB file, please use /FS
```
when building with VS 2022.
cc @peterjc123 @mszhanyi @skyline75489 @nbcsm
Related issues:
- https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/issues/87691
- https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/issues/39989
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/88084
Approved by: https://github.com/ezyang
