Update CMake and use native CUDA language support (#62445)
Summary:
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/62445
PyTorch currently uses the old style of compiling CUDA in CMake which is just a
bunch of scripts in `FindCUDA.cmake`. Newer versions support CUDA natively as
a language just like C++ or C.
Test Plan: Imported from OSS
Reviewed By: ejguan
Differential Revision: D31503350
fbshipit-source-id: 2ee817edc9698531ae1b87eda3ad271ee459fd55
