Revert "Revert "Enabling SymInt in autograd; take 3 (#81145)"" ; make sure is_intlist checks for symintnodes (#82189)
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Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/82189
Approved by: https://github.com/ezyang
