[FSDP()][7/N] Refactor most of ctor (#87921)
The goal of this PR is to make one pass over the FSDP constructor and refactor each helper method call to not be `self.<...>`. Subsequent PRs will make further passes over the FSDP constructor.
This PR looks like a lot of lines of code change, but it is only reorganization. Methods are moved to `_init_utils.py` and `_common_utils.py`. This also marks the beginning of moving methods from `_utils.py` to `_common_utils.py` -- they will be coalesced eventually. I am only using `_common_utils.py` as a staging ground to include the methods that have been affected by the refactoring.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/87921
Approved by: https://github.com/mrshenli
