[fx] Fix matching args (#94375)
To match nodes within the graph, the matcher currently flattens the arguments and compares each argument against each other. However, if it believes that a list input contains all literals, it will not flatten the list and will instead compare the list directly against each other. It determines if a list is a literal by checking if the first element is a node. However this doesn't work in some cases (like the test cases I added).
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/94375
Approved by: https://github.com/SherlockNoMad
