Return Live Data Pointers from Checkpoint, swap onto tensors (#95020)
When we checkpoint the state of the private pool allocator, we will need to make sure that its current live allocated blocks will get properly cleaned up when the tensors they correspond to die. Return DataPtrs for these new allocated blocks that the callee can swap onto live Tensors.
The exact api for setting the checkpoint can be manipulated after this as the cudagraph implementation is built out, but this at least shows its sufficiently general.
This should be the last PR touching cuda caching allocator necessary for new cudagraphs integration.
Differential Revision: [D43999888](https://our.internmc.facebook.com/intern/diff/D43999888)
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/95020
Approved by: https://github.com/zdevito
