Revert "[maskedtensor] use masked_softmax for forward/backward instead of regular softmax (#85845)"
This reverts commit a4d10342e98b0abb3286a3780617afe108328ac7.
Reverted https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/85845 on behalf of https://github.com/huydhn due to Sorry for reverting your PR but it breaks CUDA test_softmax_cuda (main.TestBasicsCUDA)