[vulkan] Upgrade vulkan memory allocator to 3.0.1 (#81472)
Upgrades VMA version from `3.0.0-development` to `3.0.1`.
There have been some changes in the API:
1. `VmaAllocatorCreateInfo` interface changed - we now need to provide some function pointers
2. Some `VMA_MEMORY_USAGE_*` flags have been deprecated
Differential Revision: [D37822117](https://our.internmc.facebook.com/intern/diff/D37822117/)
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/81472
Approved by: https://github.com/kimishpatel
