[Fake Tensor] Allow fake meta by default, delete unused ctor args (#93993)
Two small changes that I'm bundling together because one of them needs to touch fbcode and I'm not sure how to do stacked diffs + internal changes + land before release cut.
Remove allow_meta from ctor, and allow by default: we should be able to trace through meta with fake tensors, so in some senses it's a bit weird to expose to user to disallow this. However, it's still useful debug wise to error from time to time, so I've added an option to the config that will get back previous behavior.
Remove `throw_on_data_dependent_ops=True`: this was intended as a temporary behavior as we were smoothing things turning on the erroring. There are no uses anywhere of `throw_on_data_dependent_ops=False` I could find.
These are technically backward-incompatble, but fake tensor is new since the last release / in a private namespace, and I don't want to release it with baggage that would be hard to remove later.
Fix for https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/issues/92877.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/93993
Approved by: https://github.com/bdhirsh, https://github.com/ezyang
