[ROCM] Improvements of incremental hipification and build (#82190)
### Description
Improve the incremental build process on ROCM by eliminating unnecessary file changes.
### Issue
N/A
### Testing
1. Run `python tools/amd_build/build_amd.py --out-of-place-only` multiple times, and ensure File `third_party/gloo/cmake/Modules/Findrccl.cmake` does not contain patterns like `RCCL_LIBRARY_PATH_PATH`
2. Run `python tools/amd_build/build_amd.py; USE_ROCM=1 python3 setup.py develop` twice, and confirm the second run does not trigger the compiling of thousands of files.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/82190
Approved by: https://github.com/jithunnair-amd, https://github.com/ezyang
