Allow Module forward-pre and forward hooks to take kwargs (#89389)
closes #35643
This PR is mostly borrowed from #82042. Thanks @Padarn for implementing
the first version and debugging into the errors.
Based on the discussion in #82042 this PR adds a with_kwargs
argument to register_forward_pre_hook and register_forward_hook
methods. When the arg is set to true, the provided hook must accept
kwargs args. Under the hook, this PR adds a
`_forward_pre_hooks_with_kwargs` and a `_forward_hook_with_kwargs`
set to keep track of which hooks accept kwargs.
Differential Revision: [D41431111](https://our.internmc.facebook.com/intern/diff/D41431111)
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/89389
Approved by: https://github.com/soulitzer
