[cmake] Allow for add_swift_host_libraries to set that they shouldn't use llvm update flags.
This is specifically important for host libraries that include swift
content. llvm_update_compile_flags currently doesn't conditionalize the flags it
adds since it needs to be updated like I updated Swift's cmake in
558c9d408674a7a8e4743596e32f2c58d2e292b4.
In the short amount of time that I am dealing with upstream to patch those
flags, this patch will unblock eeckstein and let him continue with his libswift
work.