[NFC] TypeLowering: add CustomDeinit.
Teach SIL type lowering to recursively track custom vs. default deinit status.
Determine whether each type recursively only has default deinitialization. This
includes any recursive deinitializers that may be invoked by releasing a
reference held by this type.
If a type only has default deinitialization, then the deinitializer cannot
have any semantically-visible side effects. It cannot write to any memory
