chore: update github actions (#61517)
### Why?
They used the `node16` runner which is deprecated
### Notable breaking changes
#### `dessant/lock-threads@v5`
[link](https://github.com/dessant/lock-threads)
Now also locks discussions (in addition to issues and pull requests):
https://github.com/dessant/lock-threads/blob/main/CHANGELOG.md#500-2023-11-14
#### `actions/stale@v9` [link](https://github.com/actions/stale)
Is now stateful: If the action ends because of
[operations-per-run](https://github.com/actions/stale#operations-per-run)
then the next run will start from the first unprocessed issue skipping
the issues processed during the previous run(s).
https://github.com/actions/stale/releases/tag/v9.0.0
Closes PACK-2347
Co-authored-by: Tobias Koppers <tobias.koppers@googlemail.com>
