docs: note that response headers must be set before calling handle() in a custom server (#97693)
Fixes: #82387
A custom server that calls `res.setHeader()` after `await handle(req,
res)` silently loses the header, because Next.js has already begun
sending the response by the time `handle` resolves. Unlike a normal Node
`setHeader()` after `headersSent`, this does not throw, so the header
just never reaches the client. This adds a note to the custom server
guide showing the correct ordering and pointing out that the same
applies to framework wrappers such as `reply.raw` in Fastify.