fix: match dependency ordering between rust/go (#6443)
### Description
In Go we create the set of external deps by merging `devDependencies`,
`optionalDependencies`, and `dependencies` [in that
order](https://github.com/vercel/turbo/blob/main/cli/internal/context/context.go#L238).
This PR changes the Rust code to use the same order.
One might say that this order shouldn't matter and they would be right,
but this is a [2yr old
bug](https://github.com/vercel/turbo/commit/6077c5e4894f4fa0a95b01d5cc8f3f103a227b8b)
and fixing it would require changing the FFI layer. Fixing this should
be a post-port effort.
### Testing Instructions
`turbo_dev build --filter='@turbo/codemod'` now passes
Closes TURBO-1654
Co-authored-by: Chris Olszewski <Chris Olszewski>
