avoid false-positive recursion detection in the presence of union splitting (#61461)
fixes https://github.com/JuliaLang/julia/issues/57324
see the MWE closely: the `setindex!` method added is `setindex!(_, _,
i::Int)`, but the index passed is `UInt`. which means we hit
`setindex!(A::AbstractArray, v, I...)` twice to convert the `UInt ->
Int`, once via `T` and again via `Memory`. since `_setindex!(w, i)`
returns `Union{Nothing, Int}`, this gets union-split causing
`napplicable > 1`, triggering the aggressive recursion-limiting
heuristic `hardlimit=true`
note this fix is not super general and there are probably several other
similar scenarios one could construct dispatching through the same
general method several times and ending up hitting this heuristic. but I
think this should address all cases where this happens due to union
splitting?