[ty] don't iterate over a hashset (#21649)
## Summary
This caused "deterministic but chaotic" ordering of some intersection
types in diagnostics. When calling a union, we infer the argument type
once per matching parameter type, intersecting the inferred types for
the argument expression, and we did that in an unpredictable order.
We do need a hashset here for de-duplication. Sometimes we call large
unions where the type for a given parameter is the same across the
union, we should infer the argument once per parameter type, not once
per union element. So use an `FxIndexSet` instead of an `FxHashSet`.
## Test Plan
With this change, switching between `main` and
https://github.com/astral-sh/ruff/pull/21646 no longer changes the
ordering of the intersection type in the test in
https://github.com/astral-sh/ruff/pull/21646/commits/cca3a8045df3a1038601e848b87b2163c81aebed
