New configuration to limit the arena extension (#15983)
Add a configuration `max_power_of_two_extend_bytes ` to limit the arena extension size.
### Motivation and Context
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In our real scenario, we observe that if the model is big enough the
BfcArena will extend uncontrollable.
As showed by the following figures, if a model uses more than 16GB
memory, the BfcArena will totally apply for 32GB memory according to the
`kNextPowerOfTwo` strategy. With the new strategy, the extension is
limited. The default maximum extension size is 1GB.
#### Without the new configuration
After loading the model, ORT uses 32G GPU memory.
#### With the new configuration
After loading the model, ORT uses 23G GPU memory.
Co-authored-by: Yuhong Guo <yuhong.gyh@antgroup.com>
