[TensorRT EP] Update deprecated TRT api (#18834)
### Description
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Update deprecated TRT api:
1.
[setMaxWorkspaceSize](https://docs.nvidia.com/deeplearning/tensorrt/api/c_api/classnvinfer1_1_1_i_builder_config.html#a8209999988ab480c60c8a905dfd2654d)(max_workspace_size_)-------->setMemoryPoolLimit(nvinfer1::MemoryPoolType::kWORKSPACE,
max_workspace_size_)
2.
[kENABLE_TACTIC_HEURISTIC](https://docs.nvidia.com/deeplearning/tensorrt/api/c_api/namespacenvinfer1.html#abdc74c40fe7a0c3d05d2caeccfbc29c1a1215692ad24465e4d9e37a8a7fce1a38)-------->supersede
by trt builder optimization level 2
Perf & warning log comparison
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TRT EP options | User will see corresponding warning logs: | Average
inference time cost (FRCNN on A100)
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trt_build_heuristics_enable\|true | [TensorRT EP]
trt_build_heuristics_enable is deprecated on TRT 8.6 onwards. Please set
builder optimization level as 2 to enable builder heuristics. | ~300ms
trt_build_heuristics_enable\|true trt_builder_optimization_level\|2 |
[TensorRT EP] Builder heuristics are enabled automatically by builder
optimization level 2. trt_build_heuristics_enable is deprecated on TRT
8.6 onwards. | ~275ms
trt_builder_optimization_level\|2 | | ~275ms
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### Motivation and Context
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Prepare for upcoming TRT 10
