Add most in-place references/decompositions (#88117)
We add most in-place references in a generic way. We also implement a
wrapper to implement the annoying interface that `nn.functional`
nonlinearities have.
We fix along the way a couple decompositions for some non-linearities by
extending the arguments that the references have.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/88117
Approved by: https://github.com/mruberry
