Enable select.int when NestedTensor requires grad (#83875)
Previously indexing a nested tensor when it requires_grad would raise an error because the backward formula for `select.int` uses `self.sizes()`. This PR fixes that by temporarily registering a _nested_select_backward function which can be removed when we start using the symint approach to register kernels. For now this functionality is needed for creating a POC that nested tensor can be an API to `segment_coo` and `segment_csr` in the torch_scatter repo
```
a = torch.arange(10).reshape(2, 5).float()
b = torch.arange(12).reshape(2, 6).float()
nt = torch.nested_tensor([a, b], dtype=torch.float).requires_grad_(True)
nt[0]
# RuntimeError: Internal error: NestedTensorImpl doesn't support sizes. Please file an issue on https://github.com/pytorch/nestedtensor
```
whereas
```
nt = torch.nested_tensor([a, b], dtype=torch.float).requires_grad_(False)
nt[0]
```
would succeed
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/83875
Approved by: https://github.com/albanD, https://github.com/drisspg
