[HSDP] Add device_mesh to FSDP kwarg and add dtensor state_dict support for HSDP (#107533)
This PR:
1) Add device_mesh kwarg to FSDP. Remove init_device_mesh() from _runtime_utils.py, as device_mesh would be passed in by user as an kwarg.
2) change use_dtensor flag for state_dict_config and optim_state_dict_config to be private. If device_mesh is used with sharded model/optim state dict, _use_dtensor flag would be set to True and model/optim state dict would return dtensor state_dict. Otherwise, _use_dtensor flag would be set to False and model/optim state dict would return sharded_tensor state_dict.
3) Update _optim_utils.py, _shard_utils.py, and _state_dict_utils.py to add support for HSDP to return 2D DTensor state_dict.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/107533
Approved by: https://github.com/fegin, https://github.com/awgu, https://github.com/wanchaol
