[FSDP] Add skip writeback check gated by env var (#98300)
This adds the option to skip the `_writeback_orig_params()` function that checks for parameter and gradient writeback in case storages changed, gated by an env var `FSDP_SKIP_WRITEBACK_CHECK`.
As described in the code comment, this writeback check is important for detecting a failure mode of FSDP `use_orig_params=True`. However, because the failure mode is an atypical case and performing the check incurs nontrivial CPU overhead each iteration, we add this option to skip the check altogether.
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<summary>(Before) Pre-backward hook: 1.044 ms</summary>
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<summary>(After) Pre-backward hook: 0.500 ms</summary>
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Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/98300
Approved by: https://github.com/rohan-varma
