Extend aot autograd dedup guards to params, stop using positions (#96774)
The purpose of this PR is to remove reliance on argument positions in dedup guards, AND extend the functionality to params.
A version of this PR was stamped prior https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/95831 - but was kinda gross, because it was based on an underlying PR that did way too much with source names.
This PR leaves most of that alone, in favor of just reusing the same name standardization logic that dynamo module registration does.
Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/pytorch/pytorch/pull/96774
Approved by: https://github.com/ezyang
